Jasmine Guillory enjoys writing books about women who have sex

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New York Times bestselling author Jasmine Guillory has written seven romance novels, including “The Wedding Date”, “Proposal”and the next According to the rules”.

I started writing romance because I loved reading it. romance novels are exactly what I need during a very difficult time in my life: a good engaging story; a fun read; and a happy ending. Don’t we all need that sometimes? And it’s a joy to read and write about people with good relationships – and good sex!

The first time I read a romance novel was when I went to summer camp for a year, and my roommate brought a whole bunch of them. I was a very well-behaved nerdy kid, so I learned a lot from books. It was fun to see how you learn about relationships and characters and how different people act in relationships. I stopped reading romance for years, then came back to it as an adult, and it was so fun to get back into it.

You see the double standard of romance and sex in the publishing industry all the time.

Going to a women’s college was truly groundbreaking in helping me embrace my sexuality. So many conversations that had been secret were just things people talked about. Even things like women’s bodies and sexuality were open and discussed in a way that I had never experienced before and, in some cases, since then. You didn’t have to be ashamed to ask questions. Because why are you embarrassed to ask about your period or why your body looks a certain way? Very often we are tricked into thinking that your body is supposed to look like those people in magazines or on TV. But when you start seeing women in so many different bodies, you realize, “Oh, there’s nothing wrong with me.

Growing up in America, where you are almost trained to view something like sexuality as embarrassing, it always takes a while to get rid of that mentality. I always knew I was supposed to be ashamed of my body, but writing my books and creating characters who are less ashamed of their bodies definitely helped me feel that way.

For so long, people have acted like there was something wrong with women wanting sex and enjoying it.

I was a lawyer before being an author. When I got my first book deal, I knew people would have strong opinions when I told them I was writing a romance novel. You see the double standard of romance and sex in the publishing industry all the time. men write books that contain a lot of sex, and they are literary. Women write books with lots of sex, and they don’t. People will say, “Oh, that should have been a romance novel”, as an insult, or critics will say, “Oh, she writes clearly about herself”. People don’t give women authors the same respect. But I loved my book, and I loved writing romance, so I didn’t care that much about other people’s opinions.

For so long, people have acted like there was something wrong with women wanting sex and enjoying it. It’s really natural for me to write books about women whose sexuality is a natural part of them and who are in relationships where it works well for both of them. There’s a whole range of ways people write about sex, and I think it’s good to have more of that. It was by reading books that I discovered so many different kinds of sexualities, people of different genders having relationships and having sex.

And romance novels are a great way for people to learn about relationships, sex, and consent, and to learn how to have open, honest conversations about all of the above. I once went to a friend’s Reading Club, and a group of moms who had relatively young children were there. One person said to me, “When my daughter starts reading about sex, I would like her to read books like yours because of the way you talk about sex as something for her, as opposed to just for the other person, and because of the way the characters talk about consent.” I loved it. I think reading is a great way to start explore one’s own sexuality and learn what’s fun for you to read and what’s not – and either is okay.

Sex is often an important and serious subject that you want to discuss talk with a partner. And of course, that can be true. . . but it can also be a lot of fun. That’s why people like to have it. Some of my favorites sex scenes I wrote are the ones where you learn about the characters, they learn about each other, and they have fun. These are people who have fun together when they’re not having sex – and when they are.

Writing romance novels is a joy for me, and I hope that readers – whether they are new to romance or have read it for many years – derive the same joy from my books.

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